In December of 2008 Marianne and I started to attend a spiritual group. Looking back I see the whole experience as a perilous and pain-filled trial, but something very meaningful to me emerged in the early days. We took an introductory class where we learned a practice called a “Blessing”. The person to be blessed would be in the center of a circle and would describe their issue for which they wanted a blessing. Then the others would place their hands on the person to be blessed and be open to visualizations, which would be shared afterwards. The very first time this was done, I asked for a blessing concerning what path to follow in my life. Marianne shared the thought that rather than look for what to do, I should look for what quality I was seeking. This immediately resonated with me, and I felt tremendous love and understanding and insight from Marianne. I knew what I wanted to seek was the quality of love, and afterwards wrote this poem:
The Quality of Love A path lies before me I see it with greater clarity every day A gathering of cherished hopes and dreams It can be a reality My confidence increases. And yet a small voice asks why. Why do I seek this thing? What quality will it truly bring? Is it the path of my heart and soul? Because I can make it so Must I do it? Or am I free? Free to choose a different way Free to find a higher truth Free to open my heart Free to become who I truly am And know at last the quality of love.